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Evaluna
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Default Mar 21, 2016 at 04:18 AM
 
Who knows how to parent? We know the rights and wrongs in life but you're dealing with someone who has their own personality, a different experience of the world to you and different likes and dislikes.

My daughter is 7 and while we do all the homework, all the reading, and everything else according to school she needs to be doing more and showing more interest.

Now, I understand the importance of learning. But it's hard to learn about something that doesn't interest you. She doesn't like maths (neither did i) so she doesn't pay too much attention. But she loves science so really goes above and beyond.

In my job I read about kids as young as 9 being sent for mental health assessments and it scares me. I don't put any pressure on my child because I don't want her to think that if she doesn't do well it's really bad. Of course I want her to do well, and I encourage her, but it's also OK to be rubbish at something. If she doesn't want to do an after school club, she doesn't have to. If she really wants to do the art club, she does it.

Last year I was told by the teacher that her personality didn't fit in the class a d parents were complaining that their children felt 'irritated' by her. Well yes, she's 7 and is by no means shy and retiring. My response was that it was tough. As long as she wasn't upsetting anyone, hurting anyone or being rude then the kids are going to have to learn to deal with it as we all do in life. Now none of the mums speak to me.

My child is well mannered, behaves 90% of the time, is caring and funny but knows what is and isn't acceptable, and how we should deal with people. If people can come over here and not speak a word of English but manage to live their life, I'm pretty sure my daughter won't fail at life because she doesn't know her 9 times tables.

I don't think my way if doing things is wrong, it's just not the same as someone else.

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