Some people should stay single & shouldn't feel guilty that it's how they tend to feel. Honestly the guy I married NEVER should have gotten married. Too into himself & never grew up. There was a reason for it I figured out after I finally left the bad marriage after 33 years of fighting & tolerating him. Honestly I thought I never should have bothered with a BF let alone get married. I had goals & likes & dislikes that didn't lend themselves to being tied down to a BF let alone a H. I wanted my computer engineering career, never wanted kids. I didn't mind socializing some but growing up an only child I didn't NEED anyone to make my life complete.....

I know NOW at the age of 63 that if the REALLY RIGHT person had come along that a relationship would have been much easier...& the struggle to have a reasonable & even a REAL relationship with the person I ended up with made life hell & was impossible in the first place & my attitude towards him in the first place with all the personality red flags I saw & talked myself out of really destroyed it from the beginning.

He had no idea or capability to emotionally connect to anyone & the dysfunctional family & parents who also were incapable of emotionally connecting never taught me how....though I have found out that now I am completely out of that environment I am capable of connecting even though my lacking skills are being worked on.

But when one is in that state of not connecting, relationships are too much work & too much trouble to waste ones time on & sex shouldn't be casual in the first place because of the complicated emotional connections it creates especially when one isn't wanting that in the first place or maybe even capable in the second place.

If someone comes along that you feel like you could connect to then be open to it but otherwise, you really aren't missing anything if that's really not where your mind is in the first place