Thanks guys. I think you're right on. Nothing else I've tried has worked, so now am trying something different. My T agrees with you that I shouldn't take it for another minute!

Today is her b-day. I bought her a nice gift and she was appreciative. At least the lines of communications are opened up, but I am still maintaining certain boundaries.

Boundaries have always been difficult for me to establish because I grew up with two alcoholic parents. As the oldest daughter taking care of younger kids along with my parents, I never knew what the heck I was doing!
Thanks,
Okie