Hi chalkdust, and welcome.

Sounds like you are going through some tough times right now. I congratulate you on moving through your divorce amicably and still being friendly with your (ex-)spouse. My husband and I aren't separated yet, but are working on a collaborative divorce--trying to preserve some civility. We have two kids and will always be their co-parents, so I don't want to be enemies.

I've been reading this book lately on rebuilding your life after divorce. Maybe some of it might speak to you:

Rebuilding: When your Relationship Ends.