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Originally Posted by Wandering Soul
You see things from a woman's perspective, and projecting your understanding of yourself as a woman to men. Men are action-oriented, and they use their emotions to act, not to set down and talk about them. Men can say things like "this annoyed me" and "I was upset at that", but they don't express every single feeling. The emotion center in women's brains are larger than in men, that's why women are more emotional. Because it's natural. Just to be clear here: what do you meas by men be more open about their emotions? Could you give an example?
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Um, I'm projecting? I wasn't aware I was projecting....
I just thought that using stereotypes and preconceived notions to describe all individuals in any one group of people as being a particular way a rather ignorant assumption on anyone's part. You wouldn't go around claiming that because of some old stereotype, that say, all of the Irish were no good lazy drunkards, right? Sure, Ireland has been known for producing a plethora of beers, ales, and whiskeys, but that's by no means any indication that Irish folk drink their livers into shock. The same goes for men and emotions, just because some men are more naturally reserved with their emotions doesn't necessarily mean ALL men are this way, and that all men have to hold their emotions back.
When I mean more open with emotions, I don't necessarily mean sobbing like a baby into somebody's shoulder, rather just expressing themselves in a any way. Like, for example. Say a guy feels sad. He doesn't need to be the aforementioned sobbing mess, but he could be a little teary. I mean, like when watching a particularly emotional ending to a movie (like Terminator 2: Judgement Day). It made me cry, why not some guy?
I guess that, just because you have a Y chromosome, and your "emotional center of the brain" might be smaller, doesn't mean you can't express sadness through tears. That's how I feel.
It's exactly like the preconceived notion that all women are emotional messes and dependent on men for everything, from financial stability to every minor decision in life. Well, we aren't damsels in distress, at least I'm not. I don't need saving, and though I wear my heart on my sleeve at times, I'm not some sobbing mess waiting for a shoulder to cry on. I'm also most certainly not the "stay at home and pop babies out" kind of woman either, like Thule said earlier. I'm not a baby factory, and though I have the necessary equipment with which to bare children, I have no intention of doing so. I'm not interested in being some guy's brood mare.