I'm not getting enough sex. I haven't been getting enough sex for years, for almost the full 24 years I've been married. I've been living with this, being unfulfilled, and I've been focusing my sexual energy in other directions. I've had some success with this, but when the day is done, it seems like I always come back to the same place where more sex would be the cure.

After come on to enough of my "platonic" friends, I finally got the message. They convinced me that my occasional slip ups were inappropriate and they recommended counseling. I refused to go to counseling for years, thinking I could solve my problems on my own. And to make matters worse, my wife is against counseling because she feels its a waste of time and money. She says I'm just going to counseling to get attention, that I treat it like a hobby, like some people go bowling.

Please don't tell me to leave my wife and get a divorce. I would be devastated. I love her too much and we've got so many good things going on in our lives. That would be like telling me to cut off my right arm because I've got an itch I just can't quite scratch.

I digress. I came home yesterday with the bright idea I needed a sex therapist. I told my wife that I was pursuing this idea. She hit the ceiling. She said she was tired of my obsession about sex. She's been putting up with my obsession for so many years and she thought it would eventually subside and I would grow out of it. I asked her if she would go to couples counseling so we could work on this together and she refused. This is after she made me cut my other counseling sessions down from 3 a week to 1 a week.

I'm still going to go. I still have a lot of work to do on myself.