Hi waterbear.

I connected well with my ex T but she had to go on maternity leave.

She was CBT oriented and it became clear that due to my issues, I needed someone able to work long term on deep stuff such as with attachment, transference, deep core emotional beliefs, traumatic events, able to gently penetrate my defenses of intellectualization etc. I was with her for 1 year.

She transferred me to her colleague for her maternity leave and said I could choose to continue back with her later or stay with her colleague.

She thought very carefully about which of her colleagues to place me with, factoring in my needs and personality and settled on Dr C who is now my current T. She wasn't trained in schema therapy but Dr C suggested it and she had been trying without success to model it for me but was unable to.

I thought I'd never bond with Dr C because ex T was the first T I bonded with (only my 2nd T though).

But Dr C proved within those 8 scheduled sessions to have the gentle warmth, flexibility, balance,composure, knowledge of bypassing avoidant defenses, ability to do and tolerate deep work etc that I needed.

I grieved ex T for more than a year. I still miss her but not as intensely as I have formed an attachment to Dr C.

I still think of ex T and do recognise that she did the right thing for me by matching Dr C to me.

Is there any chance your T can personally recommend a T she knows who'd be able to give you what you need?

I note you're looking for Ts in your other thread.