I felt this way with ex-T and it really bothered me. Why would I want to know more about her than some of my friends? why was I so curious? Current T. said it's normal to want to know more about someone you feel close to. But, we also figured out that I was seeing if I was good enough. It was part of me wanting to be accepted by her. It's still there but now I remind myself of the reason.

It's helpful for me to ask myself why I want to know. If you find out ______, then what? And, perhaps it depends on the level of information you want to know. I decided with ex-T that I would ask one question a session. So, the first question was what kind of music does she like. She said pretty much everything except head banging. I said you've got to have one or two types (feeling she was being general to frustrate me). She said she didn't and that other people who have asked couldn't believe it either. I decided then that she liked being "different" and liked people wondering about her so I stopped asking questions. LOL

Ironically, I am in a great relationship with new T. and I don't wonder much about her at all. So, I do think that the curiosity is about an insecurity with the therapist.