Thanks for sharing your experience and it makes perfect sense about the intensity of the work. I have been to see someone today who I think might be the right person for me which I am so pleased about. She is not a schema T but she just seemed to have the right balance with me and allowed me plenty of time without allowing me to get lost. She was very real as well and, even though I can't feel it at the moment and probably have a long way to go yet, she seemed genuine and I hope that she would really care.

She understands the importance of dependency and attachment and the issues that brings and is willing and supportive of me grieving the loss of my current T. She accepted the difficulty of this transition but in doing so made it much easier for me to make a decision even though she said that I didn't have to right then. I will be going back to see her, especially because T is on holiday for three weeks on Friday. I hope I can have the same success as you have had and that I was starting to have with current T.

Thanks again.