find something that is a problem for you - jut one thing - dont work on too many at once

for me an example was always saying yes to shift changes even if it meant I only had singles days off in between a group of shifts and was always tired -

I asked my self why I couldn't say no - - it would be bad - I would be a bad person - I would be letting them down -

what was I afraid of if I said no - they wouldn't like me - they would think I didn't want to help - was a bad person - not a team player (I even helped out when I was sick )

What did I want to do - I wanted to say no if it was inconvenient or would mean I would not get 2 days off in between my shift groups

why? - it would be better for my health and wellbeing - help with sleep patterns - eating habits (im diabetic so should pay attention to this) and stress levels from overworking when I was tired

What did I do - the next time they asked and it was inconvenient I said no I couldn't - they tried emotional blackmail "youre letting the side down, what about the others you would be working with how will they feel when they hear you said no" and I said ok.... :-( it took a few times before I said NO and I must admit that the time I asked to change a shift and was told no it was inconvenient and then another person on the shift changed theirs did have an impact -

it takes practive and you will prob feel bad/guilty/upset short term - long term it will help

if I can help let me know

P7 - hope this example helped