That sounds really tough. As someone who is quite comfortable with the space that silence allows bits of me to process what is going on I would be very upset if I was given this ultimatum. Can you try and explain (in writing perhaps) what is going on for you during the silence. My T says that there are good silences and bad silences and we have come to the conclusion that most of mine are good. How do yours feel to you? Just some thoughts. Take care.