Hi Melanie,

I'd suggest you talk to him and ask him if he plans to outgrow the drinking at the bar phase and be a better partner.

For the record, my husband is pretty similar in how he didn't do much with our kids, did certain things around the house with resentment, and although was not out drinking, was tuned out on the TV and Internet.

I would advise you to not get pregnant with another baby with him any time soon, as to not get yourself further trapped.

My life progressed so ideally, got engaged, married, then pregnant with no struggle. So, it's hard to tell if how you went about things had any effect.

Do you love him? Do you see a future with him if he would act more loving and responsible?