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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
it doesn't sound bizarre to me at all. Truth is I was about to respond to the last post you were replying to because I think that her problem stems from the idea that she seems to have an issue with speaking to people that are in her peer group for fear of either not having anything to contribute or feeling like she is not "worthy", inadequate or inferior. It makes perfect sense to be able to talk to strangers but not to peers for this reason.
OP: I would look into the reasons why you have a hard time connecting with peers. Think about what I've said and consider seriously if that may be the root cause. If you're not able to connect and talk to peers that would make it extremely difficult to find and make friends since commonality is something that is needed for a friendship.
Just a thought, hope this helps.
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Yeah, I think the main reason is that I'm inadequate and inferior to most if not all of my peers. I've always been inferior to my boyfriend too (also in my peer group), but I usually feel equal or superior to people outside my peer group as long as no one talks about what they do for a living or about experiences as a musician when they were younger etc.
Even with peers, I'll engage in conversation until I feel inferior, then I just politely listen. I doubt I'm really that good of listener either, but I at least pretend to be. And then people think I'm quiet and often say that directly to me. What do I say when ever I have an opinion it's wrong and I look stupid? That all comes from interactions with my father as a child, if that's relevant at all.