As a male I am interested in the actual idea behind this thread, and if I can be so bold as to offer my two cents on it, this "sterotypical strong, emotions-bottled-up man" being the attractive man to women mostly is true, in my experience.

I would not classify myself as being outwardly emotional 85% of the time. I keep a hell of a lot to myself, I don't have a "great" support group if things go bad for me, and by nature I am a very keep-things-to-myself person. I don't talk about really personal things with people that often, at least not MY personal issues. I have always tended to keep things to myself. But, when I do express emotion outwardly that other 15% of the time, I am as brutally honest as they come. And in my experience, that brutal rawness of emotion has driven away girls countless times. It takes a lot for me to open up to someone and be totally myself with someone, and if I get to that level of trust I DO bare my emotions/feelings more than typically. It's a comfort thing, really. I have to feel comfortable, like I won't be judged for being a bit more expressive than normal.

Now understand that I am much more mature for my age (17) than anyone I've ever met of my age group - people meet me and assume I'm in my 20's and I've had life experiences that some 40+ year-olds haven't had, I'm much more serious and rational than people who I go to school with for example. Hell, my last relationship (which just recently ended) was with a girl 6.5 years older than me (23, nearly 24). She is the only girl I've ever felt 100% comfortable being myself around, and is the only girl I've ever been involved with that I can say I actually love. I've been heartbroken over her for a month now and I've cried and experienced emotions I rarely ever have before, and I've been more expressive of those sad emotions than EVER before in my life. And from my experience, when I as a male express such raw or intense emotion (like my devastation at losing that girl, for example), it shocks people, they aren't accustomed to it and they don't know how to react to it. Even the girl I was with was sometimes surprised by how much emotion I'd display around her. She just wasn't used to it.

Hope that whole thing makes sense lol... point I'm trying to make here is that I agree that men are held to a higher standard in displaying emotion, we aren't traditionally expected to be as expressive as women, it's a social norm transferred across centuries. But men have feelings as strongly or STRONGER than women do sometimes, and if you see us display it openly and honestly, it means we are totally comfortable around you and are secretly praying you won't judge us for showing it. Every guy I know believes this sentiment. If we are emotionally open with you, 100%, you'd damn sure not be turned off by it (barring the occasional guy who takes everything to an extreme of course), because it takes a lot for us to do that as a collective societal group. Every person is different, but the fact of the matter is that we all have the same emotions and we all experience them at some point, and men have been taught by society/popular culture that it is unacceptable to express feelings to others aside from a select few. And in my opinion, that just creates a bunch of arrogant asshole guys that don't know how to properly respond to and evaluate their emotions, because they have learned to push them aside and can't properly express their feelings to anyone else.

Again, just my thoughts on this matter, I'm sure someone is going to disagree with me lol. We tackled this topic quite a bit in my college Sociology and Psychology classes, and I made much the same arguments in our weekly seminars.