All I can tell you is that my husband came from a hugely dysfunctional family with extremely abusive, unloving parents, yet he is the most marvelous father to our three sons . . . so I call B.S. to that sentiment that a person cannot have the capacity to love and be a good parent if their parents didn't have that capacity. He didn't really have to do anything to "fix" the problem because it simply wasn't a problem. He was a natural as a great dad from the very start. He did have a very firm determination to never turn out like his family though. He is VERY different from them. Yes, he has problems that linger from his childhood that affect him, but they haven't affected his parenting ability in the least.