Thanks. I agree T:s have to be able to adjust to clients and that doesnīt mean they change their modality but adjust their way of meeting with a client. Itīs like other relationships I think, you adapt to a certain degree to the other person depending on the relationship.
As my T even said that she thinks the relationship is given by itself I think she sees it that way that she doesnīt need to make any effort to adjust a bit or to be more attuned to the clients personality. Itīs easier to just go by the same method.
It feels not hopeful as I think my T is that kind of T who is willing to discuss to
analyze but not to understand what I feel or to adjust to what I experience in the relationship with her. I also think sheīs one of those T who refrain from clients in that way, she never let any more deep or true feelings in and she doesnīt ask me about feelings either. I now donīt talk about feelings like from a friend or partner but feelings that mean you can connect to and understand another human being.
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Originally Posted by BudFox
I'm talking about the serving the needs of the client professionally and therapeutically. I didn't say anything about serving the client's every need, or personal needs.
The therapist is a paid consultant hired by the client. They are paid to help the client, not just choose therapy "services" from a menu and dispense them in machine-like fashion. They need to be flexible and accommodating, not unbending and difficult. The tools you speak of are largely unproven anyway, so the relationship itself would seem to be make or break. And if the paid professional lacks the skills to form a decent relationship with the client, then maybe they do need to change, or find another line of work.
I don't know why you are explaining basic therapy concepts or issuing life lessons. The issue at hand is the OP's difficulties with a T that she finds to be inflexible and unhelpful. She is venting, as we all do, and presumably just wants to be heard.
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