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Originally Posted by SallyBrown
You totally get me, Hankstah  . My mom made every small mistake I made into a big deal. I had no concept of what was and was not a big deal for the longest time. So I am REALLY glad for you that you got over being a little late for the bus! If this were Buzzfeed clickbait, it would be "Things only PC people will understand".
Rainbow, I'm interested by the fact that you said you felt "bad" about not talking, that you didn't ask questions. Do you think that the "gathering information" habit has anything to do with this? |
Maybe. I was very shy. Had selective mutism, and my preferred method of finding things out was by "research",
not asking questions, even when it was about me and I could have asked my Mom. It was instead of talking. Instead of trying to have a relationship with these people, I satisfied my needs by finding information about them. Or, instead of working on relationships with available people, I fantasized about these other people. My first T said that way I could get those needs met, though it wasn't a good way. Seem I haven't changed much...just more aware. No, I have real relationships outside of therapy now.
I'm sorry your Mom made every mistake into a big deal. No wonder you're confused! My Mom got anxious about everything. I remember when she came to school because she accidentally sprayed my hair with insect moth spray or something, instead of hair spray. She even called the doctor about it, but came to school to be sure I was okay or to be sure I didn't turn into a moth!