Can you get some time off by getting VNA in to help you out? Are you getting counseling as a caregiver? I know how you feel. These things you need to do so you don't take out your frustration on your mother. People change and they can move on. In time your mother will be gone and you will move on with your life. In the present moment take care of yourself emotionally and physically. Talk to someone on the phone, a hotline if you have to. I know something will work out for you. tc (((hugs)))