Yeah, I did directly ask her at one point -- she very mistakenly assumed that I was attached / dependent on her way way way more than I was (she'd thought I was taking major decisions like taking a job in the area just to continue with her) and that seemed to freak her out (which I totally understand and have sympathy for).

I do have a finely tuned radar for anger / irritation (thanks to my upbringing) and so, I can say rather confidently that I'm almost never wrong in detecting this in people (I fail with reading other emotions but not this stuff).

So, I asked her outright -- she went on and on about how my reading it as anger was really about my issues etc (seriously, we spent the better part of 4 sessions on this -- craziness but I was in this mood of feeling like a dog with a bone!). And, of course she countered with how someone could read it as flattery blah blah that anyone would take such a big decision (like making a career choice) for them etc.

She basically flatly denied that she was angry / irritated and said some milquetoast thing like she was 'curious' (and not angry) blah blah -- that answer was just such a ridiculous deflection that I didn't push it (although I did want to tell her to please not insult my intelligence with such a ridiculously obvious lie but oh well....).

But yeah, I think that last part is the sort of stuff about her that chafes at me at times -- I wish she'd not counter my questions with what seem like very obvious deflections. I'd greatly appreciate some effort going into being "lied" to

ETA: Sorry, I see your question was about 'hate' -- when this happened, I did think she disliked me (hate may be a strong word).