I can understand how you might feel hurt! But do you think it might be that your therapist knows you can check in if you are not ok?

My therapist is extremely open to between-session contact, but he would never initiate it. He doesn't want to put himself in the position of inserting himself into my life this way, and I really appreciate that. I adore my therapist, but I don't want him to be popping up on my phone when I'm not expecting it. That would make me anxious and freak me out.

Do you think she might have that philosophy? I think it might be a good idea to call her and tell her you were anxious to connect or whatever - that way you can give her an opportunity to demonstrate her caring and let you know that you need to see it.