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Old Mar 24, 2016, 09:27 PM
Anonymous37837
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Unfortunately, this is the world we live in. The arena is for the people who express themselves verbally, generally speaking. Of course you can express yourself with music and other arts, but you said you need some friends. I'm not sure if expressing yourself with music is the shortest bath. It can attract some people of course, but I'm not sure how. But with expressing yourself verbally, you will have more immediate results, I think.

You keep saying you don't have anything to contribute, why? What topics are you usually face? Are they all about music other than your type or politics that you are on the opposite end? I think the issue here is not that you have nothing to contribute, but rather your thought that you have nothing to contribute, or may be as you said afraid that you will be wrong. By the way, it's said that if you want to know the correct answer, say a wrong one. So, say your opinion in any case. I guess, I'm blunt with my opinions and I'm not afraid of confronting anyone because for me the discussion is the core of gatherings, but of course it's not, at least most of the time. Now I'm trying to be more tolerant and accepting and focus more on the social aspect of the gatherings and meetings. It doesn't work all the time, but I'm trying.

I know people who talk to others in different topics, and they know nothing about them. Do you think most people speak correct things most of the time? Most people don't care about the topic in hand as much as to socialize in my experience. That's why I face difficulties communicating with people, too. People mostly want to feel they are part of something and that others communicating friendly with them.

I want to emphasize that I suffer from similar problems, but I'm trying to do something about it. For example, I'm going to a meetup group where we meet at a bar, and I try to communicate with people casually. Sometimes I do better than others. But I will continue, because isolating myself is not an option anymore.