My therapist is willing to go into the "yucky" stuff as we call it. However, sometimes I really need her to nudge me/push me... It lets me know that she cares and really does want to do this with me. But she *won't* push - I feel like she lets it drop too easily. She's scared to push because she's never dealt with a person with MPD... And doesn't want to make us 'shut down', but I need to get the "yucky" stuff out, and it's hard to do that without a nudge...
I think it's best to talk it out... mention your concerns. Ask him if he's comfortable getting into the buried stuff, and what you both can do to make that easier.