The feelings of wanting the T to lead some way are quite strong for me because I have always been in charge of my emotional journey since a very young age. I never had anybody to turn to with thoughts and feelings for as long as I remember and now there is someone who is willing to listen I almost want them to drive for a bit and let me see how that feels. I need to become comfortable as a passenger and not being a back seat driver. Having her ask the questions and you just feeling comfortable and trusting enough to answer them might be where you need to get to, rather than you taking the lead which may be what you have been used to and are fed up with doing. Always being in control in relationships is not ideal, I can tell you that for sure, it can be quite damaging so I don't understand why this seems to be such a big goal of therapy. Sometimes we need to work on letting go of that control and still being OK in ourselves.

I am not explaining this very well, sorry, my heads a mess too but you might find something relevant in that lot or you might not. Best wishes though.