/\ This. Everything Tripp said.

It ain't about "amicable". It's about fair, manageable and realistic.
And it's about minimizing the recovery after-effects of divorce so that it's as little long-term damage as possible. Please, I know the shock hasn't worn off yet, and will keep showing up no doubt for quite some time. Life-altering loss (and this deffo is one) is like that.

Please protect yourself.

xo
Chyia