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Originally Posted by divine1966
You aren't emotionally unstable. You were upset and that's not unique reaction to a break up especially at your age. As we get older we become more philosophical and we realize deep inside that breaking up happens for a reason and more often than not the person was wrong for us.
At 17 thought it feels like end of the world coming. Like she is the love of your life etc
Now as the time passes you start feeling better, that's normal. You might feel upset again etc it could go in cycles.
You are going through grieving and everyone does it differently and it is normal. There is nothing wrong with you. We all been there. We all had first gf or bf etc
You will be fine. You have a great future and I know you'll meet some great woman in the future.
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I remember you were helpful to me before all this, and you're very helpful now, and I deeply appreciate that. I've got a ****** support group in real life, my closest (and really only) real confidant is my coworker/manager who is 35 and has for all intents and purposes become a brother to me, I owe him a lot of my sanity following this relationship ending. Your offering advice and your wisdom to me is so kind and I can't thank you enough for that.
I am happy that now this girl and I have worked out WHY things went the way they did. I realized that I made several mistakes along the way, and she admitted that what she did was wrong and was upset about that, and her and I are beginning to rekindle the good friendship we had before we became romantically involved... which is something I never thought would be possible.
I've dated other girls before (though until I met Katie I went a year and a half between relationships), but I never felt as strongly about them as I did for her. I never loved any of my exes, Katie IS my first love, if you care for that term lol. And I'm eternally grateful I have experienced that feeling, of knowing what it's like and having arguably the happiest time of my life to date with her. But by the same token, that same appreciation and happiness is depressing whenever I consider what it is I've lost. But I think maybe that's normal...? Maybe... maybe this is all a part of growing up, but damn if it isn't the hardest thing I've ever gone through in my life. And I've had some screwed up situations before now.