I have worked with T for almost 7 years and over the last year there has been some real concrete progress. T has said for the last about 3 years that I a different person than the one that walked into her off the first year. However, it wasn't until recently I feel different. Some of the changes I have noticed

*I am more confident as a mom. In the past I always compared myself to what I perceived was a good parent. My perception was unrealistic. Through constant work, lots of positive reinforcement from T, and seeing with my kids are now I realize that I am a good mom who like everybody else makes mistakes. However, I own those mistakes and work to grow and learn from them.

*I am more assertive when need be. I have stood up to toxic family members in my life and told them they are no longer welcome. Initially hubby was prepared to talk to the family members if it was what I needed as I couldn't imagine doing it...at the last minute I decided it wasn't his job to do so, but mine.

*To take care of ME. Instead of always putting everybody else first, sometimes I need to put myself first in order to have good self care.

*Learning to trust people and that it is okay to not always wear a mask. I have told a couple people outside my best friend, hubby and T things I never imagined telling another person.

*Just because I was never good enough for my father, I am worthy and there are many people I am good enough for just the way I am.

*It is okay to be pissed at the people who abused me. I am not a dirty person or damaged....(well the last part we are working on)