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Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987
How does a therapist actually help with any of these things? I look at things people say therapy have helped them with and most if not all of them can be achieved without a therapist. I have trouble understanding how seeing someone once a week or more or less can really help that much. I know it only harmed me so I suppose I have a different perspective.
People say therapy helps, but they don't really say how or what the factors are that are useful or good. And i know everyone is different and different things work for different people. That is obvious. I also know nothing is perfect so I know that isn't a factor. It just seems so bizarre to pay someone for an hour or so a week to do something??? What are they doing??
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My t made suggestions about specific things that I haven't considered.
Both I and t come from the same culture and have similar experiences growing up as well
as experiences with immigration. At this point in my life I don't associate much with other immigrants with similar experiences as mine. I mostly associate with local people. Some immigrants that I do encounter are the types that don't assimilate, remain
within their own culture and overall have very negative outlooks ( which isn't my experience). I went through immigration without ever stopping to think or acknowledging effect on ones health etc i was just too busy. I don't have anyone in real life to discuss it with as others might not fully relate or aren't neutral third party.
We all do have different experiences. I do imagine that t might not be all that helpful ( I saw someone about 10 years ago and although she was fun talking to it wasn't helpful n a long run, she just couldn't relate ).
But I don't know how can t could be damaging. I do understand on intellectual level from reading on here and I do sympathize. I just cannot relate and it does seem bizarre paying someone who isn't good for more than few appointments. I had appointment with bad hair dressers, once with bad dentist etc but i never ever went back.
I do understand why people might not leave etc I am just bringing this example to show that we have different experiences. You can't relate to paying t for one hour of talking same way others might not relate paying t ( beyond few sessions)who is damaging in any shape or form.
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