I agree with you that how you're describing things it looks like you don't fit the diagnosis. But there could be things that you aren't talking about. For example, the hallmark of AvPD is extreme low self esteem. There is also a Personality Disorder not specified, which is a mix of all of them. Have you talked to your doctor about the diagnosis yet? That is truly the first step.

Why are you concerned about the "label?" What are you planning to do now that you have a diagnosis? The diagnosis is the start of the journey, not the end point, keep that in mind.

I will say, I think that most avoidants are relieved when they get their diagnosis. Finally there is validation for their "odd" experiences, and they find they are not the only one who feels that way. It's bittersweet, of course, but usually it's the opposite of meaningless.

Are you frustrated because there is a lack of effective therapy? Are you feeling pressured to change? Why did you even get the diagnosis in the first place?

Despite societal pressure, no one has to be "normal" whatever that means. If you are different - meaning you have no friends - and you're okay with that, then it's fine. You don't have to give into the pressure to act like everyone else, to feel like everyone else. If it's bad enough to need to change, forget about "the label" and get on with making changes. If you're okay with how things are, even if "you're not as happy as you should be," then ignore the "should" and the pressure to conform to some standard. No one, regardless of how well-meaning their intentions are, can dictate to you how to live your life.