Maybe it also takes time? You can do great work and not feel an immediate sense of relief. It might take a while to integrate your understanding, acceptance and self-compassion into your emontional reality even though your rational brain can grasp it right away. Deep, old trauma doesn't usually get zapped away in a few sessions.

Maybe your T isn't giving you the empathy you need because of whatever limitations she has. But maybe you just need her empathy, patience and presence about the very same issues again and again, session after session, until you have integrated it and you don't need it so much anymore. Frustratingly, no one can tell you when that will be.

It sounds as though you feel like your T is impatient for you to get over this. Maybe check with her about this? My sense that my T's patience with me is pretty bottomless is very helpful.