I'm not sure I remember well enough to quote directly. Can most of you do that with your sessions? Anyway, good question though. Whatever the words, it's clear she's challenging me to do, or stop doing, something. Come to think of it, one of the thing's she said was to ask, what can I do to make you feel that I "get it" (or that "I understand what your situation was"). And she used the analogy of a person with a headache. Nobody else can actually feel the headache. She's trying to make the distinction between empathy (which she says is reasonable to expect from the therapist) and "feeling someone's pain" which is not. It's a message I'm intellectually prepared to accept. But it's bloody awkward because over time I've come to realize that she's not well equipped to accept what my pain has been about. Now she admits she didn't get it, but what difference does it make? I'm pretty sure she literally asked me this question but it's hard to remember everything.