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Originally Posted by Eucalyptus
Is this a sign of something? I've been told this at least once before by a therapist. Our struggle is on one hand, my and my therapist's desire for me to work toward being free of the burden of carrying a painful history with me, and on the other, my (and only my) wanting my original story which nobody can do anything about to be heard and *acknowledged*. She feels she has done enough to satisfy the latter of the two conflicting directions that I just laid out. But she feels I am not "satisfiable" (my made up word, not hers). I like my therapist very much; however, I do not feel she really has taken seriously, or been completely straightforward with me about my need for my history to be acknowledged. Not sure what to do.
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Keep talking. Therapy is not about what the therapist feels is 'enough', it's about what the patient feels is enough, and you're not feeling it.
At some point, and only when we are ready, when we feel safe enough to, we take a leap of faith to be willing to consider that our story has been heard and understood and taken very seriously. Perhaps you need something more from her. Perhaps the two of you are getting ready to talk about what being 'satisfied'/heard/believed/taken seriously means to you, so you can work on that together. Perhaps there are some very real and terrifying fears about being finally 'satisfied'/heard/believed/taken seriously, or of beginning to move into new territory. Or perhaps there is a fear of losing the therapist if you move away from your story, or the pain of your story; that it seems like talking about your story creates a strong connection with your therapist and if you do come to feel 'satisfied'/heard/believed/taken seriously, that connection could be jeopardized.
Lots of 'perhaps' on my part. I hope you and your therapist can explore together what 'satisfied'/heard/believed/taken seiously means to you.
