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Originally Posted by littleowl2006
I don't really know ThunderBow, guess it was a climate of that mixed with hurtful words. But I'm sure it has something to do with my family. I was often shamed and told I didn't deserve things that made me feel good. Do you think it is possible to overcome that? Whenever I make a mistake I feel really guilty and that makes it even harder to change
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A young child can not be held responsible for a parents anger or parents personal problems. Thus, what was said to you was not your fault, or ever was. It had nothing to do with you personally. All children who were treated the way you were, will feel responsible and will internalise it. This what all children will do. You can break free of this 1st reaction by knowing in truth, you had nothing to do with your parents feelings. They have to own their feelings, and should not blame their children for them.
What they said about you had nothing to do with you personally. It was their anger. It is easy to take ones anger out on a helpless child or animal. So yes, you can over come this with understanding through your therapy. Understanding is the key. Angry people will accuse, blame, and hurt those who they feel are defenseless and who feel guilty.