Ahhhh, what ifs...

I have 1 sister. Growing up, probably moderately close. We were isolated, which must have had some influence. At mid-teens, moved, abating isolation factor. Hung out with totally different people. Not much interaction. (We are just over a year apart in age.) Then she did something major (nothing between us personally, something else) that caused a family rift. Which is mentioned only to account for 20+ year state of incommunicado. (We weren't close, so once something like that happens, one gets busy with life and doesn't think about it. It wasn't active hostility or anything.) Majority of this time we've lived thousands of miles apart.

I contacted her when I first had to go to counselling. The therapist was all into growing up stuff (and CBT). I wanted to verify my childhood memories. She verified and reminded me of other things too. There was some bonding in this, as we're the only ones that know what happened. It was still a couple years till I was dx'd (many, many years of obvious symptoms preceded dx.) When I was dx'd, she wasn't terribly surprised. It was always obvious that our mother's a vertible alphabet soup of mental conditions. Other relative's evidence of problems too. Not having it herself, she can't comprehend what it's like or the thoughts I have, but she is ok with it.

With some background established to help understand, onto the question...

She's not hurting my conditions. At the same time, "helping" might be a little stretch. Early on, I talked to her about some of the ways it's played out and tried to explain the kinds of thoughts I have at the extremes. We communicate via text and email and she visited a couple times for a few days. Communications are of the regular stuff. Nothing heavy. I've never contacted her during crises or anything. Since she's one of only 3 people (one being psych) that I have IRL communication with, that's something I guess. But day-in day-out, it doesn't actively fit in either catagory.

Sorry so long.