Hi. I am a new member and would love some help. I have a spouse that is dually diagnosed bipolar wtih a chemical dependence (cocaine). I am dx'd with nothing nor do drugs. As with most people with bipolar, he has three children from two failed marriages and is quite succesful at his job as CEO of large company=stress. Spouse has played with many med combos over the years and has yet to find the right one. He is always tired, depressed and unmotivated. Currently he is on Depakote and Lamictal. We go to couples counseling one a week together. Here is my issue. IT is getting harder for me to stay with spouse depressed. It is hard not to take personally someone saying they are miseralbe or sleeping all day, not interested in sex. Spouse says he wants me there, but has no energy to work on our marriage. I would like to eventually have my own children. I have done everything from kiss his *** and try to make him to happy, to giving him ultimatitums. Currently, I am leaving him alone and not trying anything. I have little support system as my family and friends do not want me with a bipolar/drug addict divorced father of 3. FYI, he has been clean 140 days and goes to AA several times a week. Please please give me some advice as a spouse. I am finding myself depressed and losing my self interests b/c i am so worried about him. I am desparate for help.
Thank you.