((Sunny))

I'm sorry you are having such a damned awful time right now.

Isn't it amazing how we build the context of the relationship between us and our T's according to a fantasy we create in our heads? (The need to save face, the unwillingness to expose our vulnerabilities.) However, the true test of the relationship is how T behaves during times of crisis such as you are experiencing now.

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I wouldn't typically contact him because I don't want to seem needy (even if I am). I want to get through each week and see him once, and handle that well, and I wouldn't want him to perceive me as "over-needing" him (even if it were true).

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I went through this too. Fortunately for me, I had a major family crisis early on in the relationship with T and I had no choice but to call him. OMG, I can still conjure up the soothing tone of his voice when my son was in the hospital.

You see, I don't think T's think less of us when we need them...I think they expect us to call them when we need them because that is the true nature of the relationship.

Congratulations!! I'm so glad he passed the test.

And take gentle care right now.