Cashart I feel for you I really do ... I hope you believe that ... this has been a really trying time for both of you ... feelings have been hurt ... pride has been hurt ... painful words have been exchanged ... there is not going to be any easy answer , if there was you would have found it already ... you see a mean spiteful man ... he sees one who leans on her mother instead of him ... and on and on ... you both have equal claims to having been hurt ... somehow , someway you two need to find time to rekindle that love that was there in the begining ... is there anyway your church or your family could help you guys find that alone time ... it sounds like your getting close to an edge .. I do not want you to go over it ... reach out , try hard to find that help ... if you can resolve that stress you may find your bp symptoms ease a little ... If I could hug you and make it all better I would ... but this is going to be hard ... you both must want it ... and work on it like your very life depended on it ... on this easter , the time of new beginings , I pray , yes this old heathern prays you find a way .... Tigger ...