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Originally Posted by ScientiaOmnisEst
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People who are self-hating and depressed cause their own pain. It's mental sabotage caused by dwelling on your problems rather than getting on with life and just dealing with it, I guess?
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What I bolded implies a sense of choice which I have not had when I'm in a pit of self-loathing. Dwelling on my problems, trying to understand and maybe figure a way out, has been the best I could do sometimes. OK somebody without this affliction might not understand but doesn't change the way it is for me.
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Originally Posted by ScientiaOmnisEst
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Many of us probably have no reason to be depressed, but it happens anyway. And yet, this never actually makes it go away. I have no right to feel bad, but I do, and I even try to keep it that way. It's all my fault, so I deserve it. Isn't that how it works?
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No -- at least not in a blaming way. What I have tried to do is impersonally and NOT socially/blaming try to figure out what is going on. Then maybe I can change it? Don't know yet. Some people try meditation to get out of the loop.
Feelings are feelings. You have a right to your feelings, whatever they are. Do you really try to keep feeling bad? How do you do that? Is it a conscious choice or something automatic? If it's automatic then isn't it more like a habit?