I think the worse thing you could do is ignore her--once the door is opened it is hard to shut. It would traumatize her again to be shoved away. When I am not with a therapist or am lacking support I try to keep it positive--try to nurture not really open up the pain too much. Take it slow...little by little she will come out. Little by little I learned to love mine. I hope that happens to you as well. It sounds like you are on the right track--trust yourself and go with your heart.

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