My heart goes out to you. (But is what you're feeling transference or attachment ? Transference has a lot of influence on attachment, but they aren't the same thing.) Regardless, I still understand what you're feeling. I don't have any suggestions to help manage what you're feeling, other than talking with your T about how you feel. Can you do that - or have you done that? Sounds terribly difficult, but it really isn't so hard once you get a running start... The way I did it was to take in my notes from the last few days of my journaling in which I note at the end that "I never intended to become attached to you." I had to read the journal entries and after I read the last line, T simply asked, quite matter-of-factly, "Are you feeling you're becoming attached?" And I said, "Pretty sure." (When I left the appt., T was still sitting and making notes with that slight smile s/he gets on her/his face when s/he's thinking..."Finally!") If you don't journal, you could simply write something to your T about how you feel to give to her/him at your next appt.

Good luck. Therapy sure is hard, sometimes.