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Originally Posted by CassyO
Your defensiveness will be there for good reason. Don't fight it. Just acknowledge to the new T --- "This is making me feel really defensive" - Your T will know what to do with that, and how to calm the bit of you that is causing this reaction.
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^^This is what my T tells me. Our defences are there for a reason - to protect us, and we shouldn't expect (or wish) to drop them the minute we walk through the door to therapy.
I think it's important to find a therapist who seems consistent and understanding, who you feel comfortable with, and then take your time and pace yourself. It took me a year with current T to start expressing emotion, and I still find myself being resistant and defensive. It's to be expected.