LT - just two thoughts.

One, it has often struck me from your posts here that your marriage counseling is awfully one-sided in your husband's favor. The issue needs to be addressed if it's going to achieve anything.

And two, I am wondering how your husband would cope with five days alone with your daughter? You essentially made your life harder so he could do something he wanted to do; has there been no appreciation of that? No offer of reciprocity in some form?