Abby, it wasn't meant to be callous. I've been in dark places over the years. Nothing anyone said could alter that. Infact I couldn't listen through the mental noise to long sermons. What I could listen to, was other people's experiences that came from short sound bites.
It was true for me, that no matter how much I was struggling, i still had more to do. Hearing it that way, gave me hope that there was an end line.
'When I hurt enough' was my mantra.
I'm sorry you took that as an attack.
Good luck in your quest.