Hi Seeking,

I echo Ozzie's question, why are you trying to analyse it?

My experience has been that analysing relationships is fraught with problems, and even sometimes creates problems that aren't there.

I am a verbal and quite intellectual person, and these skills have done me no good at all in personal relationships. My best close relationships have been a complete mystery to me; people have just locked onto me non verbally and proved to be firm and reliable friends. But they are never the people I expected, it's amazing.

Also, in my firm relationships the idea of analysing is comical, I know they are there as sure as the sun comes up. The ones I have 'analysed' have been the flaky ones, and they have invariably fallen away.

One thing you can do is observe your feelings when your with someone, and listen to how that person relates to you. In the good relationships the signals are loud and clear.

Of course, this is only my experience, and I may be oversimplifying, but that's how it has been for me.

A final thought - if someone really likes you, they can be as different from you as chalk is from cheese, but they will still be a good friend for you.

I once worked in an office, where I wasn't very happy. I fnally left rather abruptly. I went round and said goodbye to everyone, and it was a pretty cold experience, as I obviously hadn't fitted in there. But one person, an older lady and quite senior, actually cried as I was leaving. Only later did I remember our conversations and realise that she had been my friend all along. It's a funny old world.

So again, maybe it's just noticing that matters.

Cheers , Myzen