Thanks pinksoil, esthersvirture, and sister.

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pinksoil said:
although your may not be consciously reaching out, he knows... he knows you need him so he's there before you can even ask

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Wow, that sounds great. Makes me want to give my T a hug.

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I'm sorry you are having such a damned awful time right now.

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Thank you, sister.

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I don't think T's think less of us when we need them...I think they expect us to call them when we need them because that is the true nature of the relationship

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That seems so wise to me, sister. I think I have to work on being more vulnerable and not being afraid that others will think me needy. The positive cognition I use a lot in EMDR is "I am strong," and maybe that is not the best choice...