((((( DePressMe )))))
I am so sorry that you and your family are going through such hard times. Alcoholism is a terrible disease that not only wreaks havoc in those of us it strikes, but also in our families.
It sounds like you have taken great strides to protect yourself and your sobriety. Does your brother have help? Does he see a councelor or have a support system? I know you've mentioned your wonderful support, I just wonder if your brother has that too or if he's relying on you? I hope that he finds some peace and serenity too.....very sad times. Just know that if he relapses, it's not anything you did or didn't do.....I hope things get better. Please keep us posted.

~Rayna