I never knew that my father had an interest in womens clothes and neither did my mother. That was until a few things happened. I was probably 8 years old and my mother found some womens underwear under the car seat. She thought it was for another women.

My dad then did something which effected me as a child. He went outside the front of our home dressed up and posing towards the neighbor. My mother and I had no idea this had happened until the police came to inform this had happened. The embarrassment this caused meant we had to move house. I believe his reason for doing it was stress.

This was when I found out about my dad's issue and my mother too. My mother decided to stay with him, but has constantly blackmailed him about it since 'you'll pay for what you did'.

Anyway, my question is about this type of thing. Why would my father do what he did without considering the effect on me?

Apparently he enjoyed his activity at work in a closed office and would store his clothes in a locker. So this way no one knew.

Maybe people who have this issue can help explain it all to me, it will hopefully make me feel better. I have all kinds of worries such as if I was ever abused and instantly consider my dad because of his actions. Why would he do that in front of a neighbor? He has never done it since, as far as we understand.