I'd never heard of Spotnitz. His theory strikes a chord with me. If I have any issues of the sort he writes about (and I think I may), mine started later than infancy. I do recall having "id vs superego" type conflicts early in schooling, related to interactions with peers and teachers, not so much my parents. I distinctly remember realizing that my actions can have unintended negative consequences for others, and feeling trapped between wanting to simply express myself but fearing violating others' boundaries. The next thing I recall happening is other kids who didn't seem to have acquired a sense of personal responsibility and empathy yet, teasing me relentlessly for being "the goody two shoes" or some such, and how much that hurt. I think I still have baggage of some kind from all this. I remember being able to see myself as both the "good person" and the "bad person" at the same moment causing panic attacks. Talk about cognitive dissonance.