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Originally Posted by Wandering Soul
Why do you think your true self isn't likable?
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Just from people's reactions and because I spent most of my life not really feeling loved or listened to.
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Originally Posted by divine1966
I don't think you need to be an expert to be able to contribute to the conversation.
I've never been on a cruise because I am afraid of getting sea sick so if people talk about cruise I might ask is if true you feel sea motion because some people do and some don't. I wonder how much is true. I've never been in military but my grandpa was career officer and my fiancée was in service. So I can share what they say or I can ask questions. If people talk about travel to places I've never been I can comment how exciting it sounds and ask questions about those places.
If you have nothing to say you can just ask questions. If people talk about their studies then you can bring up yours etc no need to know all right answers. Unless you start lecturing people and showing off your expertise in things you don't even know, then it should be fine. In my experience people are mostly tolerant.
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I wouldn't have a problem if these sorts of conversations didn't happen so often. It's seems difficult to form friendships if most of my conversations involve me just asking questions or listening because I don't relate to the experience. It makes it more difficult for people to get to know me because I'm not fully able to join the conversation to the extent that everyone else in the group usually is (usually they all share an experience and then that's all they talk about).