Self-loathing is taught to children by parents who hate themselves; and so on and so forth. Self-loathing is the result of listening too much to the criticisms of others, and trusting their opinions of you more than your own.

Of course, I can't comment on any of the "narcissism" points because I have no idea. I worry that I may have the symptoms of narcissism and attention-seeking, in that often times I AM entirely self-focused, sometimes extremely self loving and other times extremely, violently self hating. Nobody who fits the bill for narcissistic traits gets anything but contempt, though, so it's hard to get any help from anybody if you ARE a narcissist. I guess being a narcissist is the new Boogeyman monster, who is horrible through and through and deserves to die no matter what. They are not human. They have no feelings. They do not deserve to live, and everybody hates them.

The fact is, though, EVERYBODY needs attention and love. Everybody. That's not a horrible thing to ask for.