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Old Mar 28, 2016, 06:32 PM
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Hi all, I've posted on this site before, but I wanted to come to you guys with a more specific question. How do you talk about and how does your T address/help you work through having attachment towards her (specifically maternal attachment)? I find I keep talking about and wanting the same unrealistic things from her that she can't give and every session I leave very triggered and sad because of course I am reminded she can never fulfill that need. Do you guys have any advice on how to work through these things? Is it my responsibility to just accept and work through the pain or do Ts have a specific way of helping you (like talking about childhood, giving you the things you long for like hugs and such to hopefully satisfy the need, etc)? I just feel so lost and can't get over this hurdle. Every time I open up to someone (which is rare), I end up growing very attached to that person in a maternal way and that has happened with my T. Because I feel so hurt, she is thinking of passing me on to someone else because I can't seem to get better or move past this. And since I have experienced a therapist drastically terminating me before for this very reason, the bond between my current therapist has totally suffered because I don't know if or when she'll pull the rug out from underneath me as well. I don't want attachment to be associated with pain because it once felt good to be attached to her (it felt safe when she allowed the hugs), but now all I feel is pain and don't have any trust in her anymore because of how scared I am she will leave.
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